Canada: less religious and less prejudicial
GODLESS WORLD / The future looks brighter for queer youth
Krishna Rau / National / Tuesday, June 10, 2008
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A recent poll shows that only 72 percent of Canadians believe in a god. Twenty-three percent don't believe in a deity and six percent had no opinion.

Now 72 percent may still sound like a lot, but in the US the number of non-believers — or independents, as I prefer to label them — is only eight percent. What that means is that Canada — Stephen Harper and his evangelical acolytes to the contrary — is much less in thrall to dogma-spouting religious zealots than our southern neighbours.

And the news from the poll — conducted by Canadian Press/Harris-Decima — gets better. It shows that 36 percent of those under the age of 25 said they did not believe in any god. For those over the age of 50, 82 percent said they believed in a god. Rural Canadians were also far more likely to believe in a god than urban residents — 76 percent to 69 percent.

What that means is that the future of Canada looks increasingly less likely to be dominated by religion and the prejudices that come with it. The country is becoming increasingly urbanized and, of course, eventually those now under 25 will be running Canada. And since polls have increasingly shown that younger and urban Canadians are more likely to be accepting of same-sex marriage and gay rights, the future is looking brighter for Canada's queer youth.

Maybe at some point we'll be able to stop pleading with God to "keep our land glorious and free."

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The debate over polygamy in Canada is heating up. So should Canada legalize polygamy?

My opinion is yes, we should. If three, or more, people love each other and want to be able to legally share their lives, bodies and rights, then they should be allowed to. And nobody should have the right to stop them.

But this is also one of those rare cases where my opposition to religious dogma cuts both ways. I want to say fuck you to those Christian evangelicals who opposed same-sex marriage because they claimed it would lead to legalizing polygamy and marriage was a sacred bond between a man and a woman. But I also worry that legalizing polygamy will lead to abuse of young women by religious fundamentalists who believe that men — and men only — should be able to marry multiple women, no matter their age.

There are already cases, reportedly, where Muslim imams are blessing polygamous marriages and where Mormon fundamentalists in BC are doing the same thing. In some cases, in both religions, the marriages have supposedly involved pressuring young women into the marriages.

Would legalizing polygamy worsen that sort of abuse? Or would it provide some sort of framework to regulate coerced religious marriages that are now performed under the radar with no official notice?

Well, those marriages are almost certainly going to continue regardless of their legality. Women, even in monogamous marriages, are often forced into it because of religious, community or financial pressures. The legal status of monogamous marriages hasn't prevented abuse, just as the illegal nature of polygamous marriages hasn't prevented abuse there. The answer requires actually taking action against the abuse of women and children, instead of governments and society continuing to maintain a handsoff approach to religious communities. It does not require depriving consenting, loving adults of the right to live in a legally recognized relationship.

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Along the same lines, a furor has erupted in France over a court agreeing to annul the marriage of a Muslim couple because the bride turned out not to be a virgin, despite promising that she was.

The French justice minister, who originally ignored the ruling, has decided, under media uproar, to appeal the ruling. Critics are complaining, not about ending the marriage, but that the court treated it as a breach of contract, thus — they say — reducing marriage to a commercial transaction. So the question is should the government be intervening in this case?

I instinctively want to side with the bride. The idea of a religion insisting that a woman — but not a man — be a virgin before marriage seems ridiculously archaic to me. The religious proscriptions make no sense to me, and I certainly don't understand why anybody would prefer to marry a virgin. The insistence on virginity seems to be merely a way for men to control a woman's sexuality, first her father, then her husband. In today's society, we should have grown beyond that.

On the other hand, the fact is marriage is a contract of sorts. A couple agrees to marry because — apart from love, of course — each is convinced the other fulfills a set of individual characteristics they require in a partner. If one leaves the religion out of it, and a secular — if peculiar — husband insists on a wife's virginity, and she proclaims herself to still be a virgin when she isn't, would he be justified in annuling the marriage?

I would still say no, because wanting to deflower a virgin on her wedding night strikes me as more of a fetish, and an exceptionally fleeting one, than a permanent requirement. Similarly, even with religion factored in, virginity seems a minor spiritual flaw to me. The bride, I must say, would be stupid to claim virginity when her lie is likely to be so quickly exposed, but it hardly seems a disqualifying condition, even on religious grounds.

Seriously, would any of you want to marry a virgin?

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A letter by Albert Einstein, written to philosopher Eric Gutkind in 1954, has sold for $404,000 at auction.

In the letter, Einstein writes, "The word God is for me nothing more than the expression and product of human weakness, the Bible a collection of honourable but still primitive legends which are nevertheless pretty childish."

The buyer was not identified, nor is it clear whether the attraction was a letter from Einstein or the specific views expressed in this one.

Regardless, who am I to argue with Einstein?

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POLYGAMY
Should polygamy be legalized it would affect every aspect of law that pertains to families, including Wills, consent to medical treatment, immigration, social assistance, taxation, custody of children, pensions, death benefits, equality rights, etc etc. That's why the Convention on the Elimination of All forms of Discrimination Against Women (which Canada ratified on 18 Oct. 2002 and which it is legally obligated to uphold), states that polygamy impoverishes women and also harms their children. Moreover, Mother Nature has made the sexes almost equal in number -- there aren't even two women for every one man. If polygamy were legalized, rich men would help themselves to many women, while poor men would have to do without. Would that make for social harmony? No, it would not; it would make for women-snatching, which is what happened in cave man times. Polygamy belongs to the dark ages when men traded women like cattle and women had no rights, but were mere concubines in harems. Let's kick polygamy into the garbage can of history, where it belongs...oh, and while we're at it ...arch-polygamist Winston Blackmore of Bountiful, BC (26-30 concubines in his harem, 116 children and more on the way, and this isn't defamation but fact) is quite open about having impregnated 15-year-olds, which is statutory rape, only HE says he's only obeying God's commandments. (Check the Vancouver Sun and also the CBC's Fifth Estate). Maybe God should be charged with aiding in the sexual exploitation of minors, along with Winston? Why not? Anything goes in our crazy province of BC.
Jancis M. Andrews, Sechelt BC
06/10/08 7:10 PM EST
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Totally agree
I gotta agree with Einstein there. Personally, I see God as a scapegoat so that a person always has someone -- or thing -- to blame. Also as a way to ease their fears of dying. As for polygamy, I believe it could work, so long as all members love each other. I do frown upon the idea of a man marrying a few women just because he can. As for marrying a virgin, I couldn't care less as I'm not capable of popping the cherry. I'll admit that I'm a virgin, but not for religious or whatever reasons.
Shanna Andress, Espanola Ontario
06/27/08 12:24 AM EST
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Polygamy should be legalized
I think the key notion here is that polygamy is not inherently exploitive. The heterosexual nuclear family has been the font of all kinds of violence against women and children, and we don't question its value (well, I do, but you know what I mean). I have seen interviews with women talking about how there is strength in numbers and they are there to support each other, and how each has a greater level of autonomy since the burdens which inhere to the role of 'wife' are diluted. Which is not the case in the two person marriage. It doesn't matter that you disapprove or find it icky. What does matter is that people should have the right to determine their own family-making. At least, that's what I remember our pious self-appointed marriage advocates saying five years ago. Goose, meet gander.
Alex MacLean, Toronto Ontario
06/30/08 2:22 PM EST
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