Rosemary Hardwick
PROUD LIFE / Pride Toronto volunteer touched many lives
Andrea Houston / Toronto / Sunday, January 08, 2012
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When long-time Pride Toronto (PT) volunteer Rosemary Hardwick moved to Canada 26 years ago, she was able to come out proudly as a lesbian, her wife says. Finally free, she devoted the rest of her life to Toronto’s queer community.

Hardwick died suddenly on Jan 7 of heart failure. She was 54. Her death was a shock to friends and family, particularly her wife, Stacey Elizabeth Ferguson.

“She wanted to live her life as who she was,” Beth says. “Until she arrived in Toronto, she wasn’t able to be free and out. When she arrived in Canada, she came out as lesbian and lived her life as a lesbian. That was important to her.”

The couple met while volunteering together in 1989. Beth describes Rosemary as “vibrant, compassionate, intelligent, funny, energetic, creative and beautiful. This is a huge loss.”
Pride volunteer Rosemary Hardwick died Jan 7 of heart failure.
(Doreen Engelberts)


Hardwick moved to Canada from Queensland, Australia, in 1986. She was an educator, a community mental health worker, a nurse and a suicide prevention trainer with a particular interest in helping gay, lesbian, bisexual and trans youth. She served as chair of the Toronto Suicide Information Alliance.

“She saw all the gay youth suicides and the bullying and wanted to help,” Beth says. “She was a vibrant force who really tried to make a positive difference. And she did.”

Hardwick was very active in the Toronto community. PT board member Mark Smith says she played a vital role in Pride planning for about 14 years.

“Courage and passion make a difference,” Smith says. “For 14 years, Rosemary volunteered her courage, standing up for what she felt was right for our community and sharing her passion, which carried us forward. I am going to miss her.”

Metropolitan Community Church of Toronto pastor Brent Hawkes says she was also very active as a church volunteer.

“She had such passion for safe spaces, for helping people with addictions. She was really amazing,” he says.

Hawkes says Hardwick embodied all the qualities of what the Pride movement stands for. As a Pride activist, she was outspoken and contributed greatly during the Community Advisory Panel process last year.

“She just loved the organization and really wanted it to turn around. She was so happy that Pride was starting to move in the direction she wanted it to go.”

Former volunteer Tyler Johnson, who became close friends with Hardwick during his time as PT youth coordinator, calls her a role model.

“We became best friends. Her last words to me via email were, ‘Pride is so much a part of me and my life in Canada. I have done it for so many years that I cannot think of doing anything else.’

“I am very disheartened to hear of her passing and will miss her dearly. She was my inspiration, a role model, and I will never forget the time I spent with her.”

Visitation will take place from 4pm to 8pm on Jan 13 at the Rosar-Morrison Funeral Home & Chapel at 467 Sherbourne St. A funeral service is planned for 2pm on Jan 14 at the Metropolitan Community Church, at 115 Simpson Ave.

A reception will follow at the church at 3pm. In lieu of flowers, Beth has asked that donations be made to the Metropolitan Community Church.


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love
this Amazing beautiful Lady changed my life for the better,,, she will forever be my angel....Rosemary went well out of her way 2 make me feel happy and better for that i will treasure every single memorie that was happy peacefull and caring.... NO ONE COULD OR WILL EVER FILL HER BOOTS>>>>ONE OF A KIND all my love and thoughts thankfull their is not a big enough word 4 her just joy love and peace and fight for what u want and believe in
nicole, toronto on
01/09/12 2:39 PM EST
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RIP, angel
My love and prayers go out to Beth at this difficult time. Rosemary was an amazing woman that brought joy and light to every person she met. She made me laugh harder than anyone could and leaves a hole in our hearts that no-one can fill.
Anon, Toronto ON
01/09/12 5:37 PM EST
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poem that i wrote for her
A SPECIAL WORLD and good friend A SPECIAL WORLD FOR YOU AND ME ... ... A SPECIAL BOND ONE CANNOT SEE ... IT WRAPS US UP IN ITS different hearts AND HOLDS US FIECLY IN ITS heart. ITS FINGER SPREED LIKE FINE SPUN GOLD GENTLY NESTLING US TO THE FOLD THE SILKEN THREAD IT HOLDS IN FAST BONDS LIKE THIS ARE MEANT TO LAST. AND THOUGH AT TIMES A THREAD MAY BREAK A NEW ONE FORMS IT ITS WAKE TO BIND US CLOSER AND KEEPS US STRONG IN A SPECIAL WORLD, WE WE BELONG into our heart and we will miss this special lady
james, toronto ontario
01/09/12 6:02 PM EST
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Remembering Rosemary
I only knew Rosemary for a year or so, but she made the most lasting impression on me... I hope Rosemary saw Mark Smith get elected to the board. During one of her many visits to my restaurant so we could chat and wonder where Beth was parking the car, we talked about him. I had helped interview Mark as a PT coordinator and said that I had voted for him and hoped he was elected (two AGM's ago). She was happy to hear it and was just sooo proud of him for being able to find his confidence and stand in front of a sometimes hostile crowd... she was proud of him, proud of me, and proud of herself. I will miss her like a hole in my soul for the rest of my life. Beth, I am so very sorry... and losing Rosemary has taught me the that that statement is so very inadequate to describe the feeling behind the gesture.
Alex, Philadelphia PA
01/09/12 6:59 PM EST
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heart of gold
I loved Rosemary. I loved the way she wore her heart on her sleeve. I loved the way that heart beat fiercely to defend the needy. I loved the way her heart beat in joyous harmony with whatever humour she found in life. I loved the way her heart encompassed her friends with genuine fondness. I loved that she found someone to entrust with that oh so very sensitive heart - thank you Beth. I loved that her heart recognized another who, from her childhood, she would call on for guidance and unconditional love and hope, thanks, my friend also. Goodbye to this life Rosemary.
Mary Schmid, Pomona Qld Australia Queensland
01/09/12 9:31 PM EST
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Like a mother to me
I am gonna miss her so much. Nobody supported me as she did since I became coordinator for PT back in 2007 and through all this years she was a real friend, a leader and an inspiration. She was an inspiration for many and real privilege to have worked with her. I am speechless and her lost has devastated me. She encouraged me to be kind and brave, she was like a mother to me. I hope she is happy wherever she is and thank you for everything!
Moises, Toronto Ontario
01/10/12 1:18 AM EST
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4ever a friend
Our world lost a good friend. Did so much for all of us. We salute people who do good things.
Mike Carroll, Ottawa Ontario
01/10/12 7:40 AM EST
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u r now my ANGEL
RoseMary u were and will always b my ray of sunshine smiles and rainbows...I miss u all ready so very much... Truly,Madly,deeply 4ever and always in my HEART xo ur Lil Tuffie loved u as big as ur heart is.....
nicole, toronto on
01/10/12 6:33 PM EST
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From your niece <3
I Love you and miss you so much Auntie Rose :( You will be in my heart forever <3
KaeleighFerguson, Midland Ontario
01/10/12 7:41 PM EST
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Spirit like no other
Rosemary, you were such an inspiration to me. I've never known someone with such and endless spirit! You will be sadly missed! My thoughts & prayers are with Beth.
Greg Downer, Toronto ON
01/17/12 10:47 AM EST
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