Edmonton swingers club tackles hysteria
SEX PANIC / Owners vow to fight for sexual freedom
Ted Kerr / National / Monday, February 23, 2009
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Edmonton's new swingers club is not swinging open its doors quite yet.

A few months ago Steamers, Edmonton's oldest bathhouse, quietly closed as a result of gentrification in the city's downtown eastside. Across the city, a neighbourhood association is trying to stop a swingers club from opening, arguing that its presence would be a setback for the area's image.

Eleanor Burke, president of the Canora Community League, told the Edmonton Journal she was "amazed" that people go to clubs like 4Play and swap partners.

"Do it downtown or somewhere, but not in a community where there are kids," she said. "I don't think it's morally right for the kids to see this."

Owners of swingers club 4Play hoped to open their venue over Valentine's Day weekend, but the opening date has been pushed back. The club faces a development permit appeal citing parking issues, set to be heard March 5.

4Play is located just off Stony Plain Rd, a stretch well-known for pawn shops, sex stores and rent-to-own furniture locations. Last month, the City of Edmonton released the Jasper Place revitalization strategy that suggests a limit on the expansion and creation of adult-oriented businesses in the area.

4Play owners Joe and his wife Cindy have hosted swingers events in the past without much opposition.

"People are looking at us in a different way," suggests Joe, "because we are not hiding, we are straightforward, we are saying, 'This is who we are, this is our lifestyle.'"

While Joe says he has no issue releasing his last name, both he and Cindy have decided that for the privacy and safety of their children and membership, they will provide only their first names — a sign of how far we as a society still have to go in terms of sexual openness.

"The reason we are fighting to open 4Play," says Joe, "is for freedom of expression, to express our sexuality." And, adds Cindy, "because the Supreme Court of Canada has said we are not wrong."

Cindy is referring to the 2005 Supreme Court of Canada ruling that found swingers clubs cause no harm to society.

In the 7-2 Supreme Court decision stemming from the Montreal-based Labaye and Kouri cases, the court ruled that sexual acts are indecent if the act is harmful. The previous test of decency was based on community standards.

4Play's owners see a link between swinger and queer communities, with both groups fighting to carve out a place for themselves in a sexually repressive culture. Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people are welcome to apply for 4Play membership, say Joe and Cindy.

"We do not discriminate," says Joe, "but it is up to people to be honest with who they are and what they are looking for."

He suggests that if people are looking for the bathhouse experience 4Play is not for them. As Joe sees it, the swingers club experience is more social than sexual, with most sex happening when people go home together after meeting at the club.

Before they began work on opening the new club, Cindy and Joe ran a swingers club four blocks away from 4Play. That club was open for over 10 years and they say they never had an issue before now.

Through running the club and hosting swingers camp-outs on their private property, they have become part of a strong community of people they call their "horizontal friends" — friends with whom they have had sex.

This group of 20 people has been working around the clock since Jan 8 to open 4Play. The place needed a lot of work. The club is situated in an old movie theatre that sat abandoned for six years and then was briefly home to a church group that never did any renovations. From dealing with damaged ceilings to old carpet, Cindy and Joe have put up over $40,000 of their own money and expect to put in at least $15,000 more.

They plan to recoup the costs through Friday and Saturday night events that they hope will bring in 60 to 100 members. After 4Play is up and running, they may also rent out the space after business hours to other organizations. The venue has a capacity of 130 people and includes a dance floor, theatre and lounge area.

Despite the local community association's concerns, Stony Plain Rd area citizens have been supportive of 4Play opening. Ruben Verdin works at a nearby coffee shop and moved into the neighbourhood three years ago when he came to Canada from Mexico.

"When I first heard about the club opening it blew my mind," says Verdin. "But then I thought — hey, this is Canada. It is a free country and people are free to do what they want as long as they don't harm other people.

Jorden Dorran who lives in the area and works in restaurant just outside of the Stony Plain Rd area was not surprised when she heard that the club was opening.

"It suits the area. Right now I live with hookers," she says, referring to neighbours in her building and the sex workers who do business in the area. "This street looks like shit, so if they make sure the outside of the building looks good then I say why not. I don't care what goes on inside."


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That area is S***
That area is choked with depravity. After a rousing night at the swingers club the patrons can walk east a few blocks to the local message parlor for a happy ending. In Edmonton, we as a city have seen again and again and again that places like this (and Steamers for that matter) attract crime in the form of prostitution, drugs, sexual assault and gang activity. All 4Play will do is make an impoverished area worse. Especially for the children who live near there and whom are already at a high risk of joining ganges and the sex trade. That risk gets even higher when the crime 4Play will attract moves in. We the GLBTQ community have seen first hand how devastating places like 4Play are. Their existence creates an atmosphere that does not take sexual activity seriously and thus facilitate the spread HIV. Any time you have large amounts of people engaging sexual activity with multiple partners the chance of contracting HIV greatly increases. Safer sex education and available contraception can only go so far when people do not stop engaging in dangerous sexual behavior.
I'm gay, Edmonton Alberta
02/24/09 4:06 AM EST
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"dangerous sexual behaviour"?
Understanding your own boundaries, knowing what turns you on, building trust through clear and open dialogue about sex...yes that all sounds like it's going to lead to depravity...
me too, vancouver bc
02/27/09 1:53 PM EST
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Interesting
I found this a very interesting read. I have been involved in the lifestyle for many years. I find that there is a great misconception about what a swingers lifestyle is all about. We do not jump around from partner to partner carelessly. It is nothing like you see in the movies, there is no "key" bowls or drunkin hairy men running around, women do not just sit around in slinky clothing with no undergarmets and wait for the next one to come by. We actually enjoy a safe and honest relationship with the people we have chosen to play with. It is a very open community and is nothing like a "rub and tug or even a bath house" it is simply a social club. No different to any other social club out there. We take time to enjoy conversation, food, drink, we laugh and cry, we dance, we just plain enjoy life. It is not all about sex, it is feeling like a community. We are a strong community and we are a safe one. Most of the people in our community do have children, but nothing that happens between consensual adults is flaunted in front of our children. In most cases the children do not know any more then that there parents go out once in awhile no diffrent then any other kind of date they may have. We have chosen to have safe and honest relationships with others with the consent of our partners. Why is it that society judges this but not the men and women who go to the bar each weekend and pick up some individual who they have never seen before ..sleep with them...and never see them again, all the while knowing not only that they have a disease or that they may have created life....but hey that is better right? Or the husbands and wifes who go out and meet someone behind there partners backs, and there families fall apart from it? The level of honesty and respect that swingers tend to show for there partners can be such a liberating thing to observe.So before you judge and compare our lifestyle to that of a sex trade become i
Mistressj, Edmonton Alberta
02/28/09 12:51 PM EST
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